Guys seems to have a tendency on cheating on their pregnant partners.
Our driver did it.
My husband’s friend did it.
Everyone seems to think that if a girl is pregnant, they have to stop poking on the hole no more and have to resort to fulfilling their desires through other means.
What a stupid thing to say.
The reason men cheat is because the thrill of having a new lay and getting away with it far outweighs their fear of losing the girl IF she finds out.
And what’s there to be afraid of anyway?
Sure, the girl will blow her top, call him names, throw things around, break down and cry.
But that’s just the woman.
There’s really no huge consequence for the man.
At the end of the day, she’s still there. Hanging around, hoping that he’ll change.
“It’s just that one time baby,” he’d say. “I don’t really love her. I love you.”
Oh yeah, were you thinking about me when you were with her?!
My husband friend said technically it’s categorically not cheating IF 1) you don’t stick it in the right hole and 2) there’s cuddling after and 3) If you don’t love your FWB.
Here’s the thing though, the question is if men will cheat. Some men do and some men don’t.
Rather, if you knew your husband’s friend was cheating, do you inform the wife?
Husband says no. You don’t say a damn thing,” he said. “You don’t tell on your bro.”
I’m on the fence.
You look at the pregnant wife, and her big tummy. And you wonder if it’s your responsibility to destroy what future they may have together.
“Ignorance is bliss,” my husband said. “What she don’t know won’t hurt her.”
So you’re just going to let him get away with it?
“Yeaaaahhhhh! Don’t rock the fragile boat,” he replied. “He’s our friend first before we even knew her. Friendship trumps society’s mandated moral obligations.”
“Though I’m a bit disappointed because I thought the prospect of fatherhood would change him,” he continued as if to assuage his guilt.
Lesson learned, ladies.
Follow your gut.
If you think your man is cheating, he probably is.
Those women whose photos he likes on Facebook, seriously, he’s not liking them just because. He’s liking them because he’s attracted to them.
If they are messaging each other, it’s the beginning of a dangerous friendship. He’s not just being friendly. He’s being friendly because kinikilig siya.
The hardest part is not catching him.
The hardest part is accepting that your guy is not really as loyal as he think he is, so what are you going to do about it?
Because if the answer is nothing, then you’re giving consent to the act.
If you don’t want to face the fact, then you let bygones be bygones and let’s just follow status quo.
It’s hard — especially since you’re pregnant with his kid.
“It’s just that one time,” he said. “Would you destroy our relationship because of one stupid act?”
I dunno about her.
But I do know what I will do IF my man cheated.
And maybe, just maybe, that will keep him from cheating.
Some food for thought.