BEFORE YOU GO PRO, JUST A THOUGHT:
1. Guys would LOVE it.
They can divorce their baby mamas and remarry again anytime. They can divorce a handful of times like changing their phones.
NOTE: It is easier for divorced men to remarry than single mothers to remarry only because many men do not want the burden of taking care of other kids who are not his own unless the woman was really worth it.
Then again, this happens anyway without divorce.
2. Legitimate born children loses —- both in status and in inheritance.
In other countries where divorce is legal, it is common to have kids with multiple mothers and fathers. Who then is the legal child?
Because all illegitimate children can now be legitimate due to the divorce law.
If your husband has a mistress and divorces you and marries her, then all the children is legitimate. No crying of foul.
I as the legitimate wife at least have my pride that MY child is legitimate and the mistress’ child is not. So my child gets more than the illegitimate’s when the husband dies.
With divorce, we remove that limitation. And everyone gets equal share because no child is legitimate. Sucks if you’re the original legitimate wife and have legitimate children.
3. Sucks to be the child of parents with multiple wives and husbands.
You can romanticize the single parent household all you want, but if given a choice, kids would prefer a two parent household.
But divorce allows a single parent household to promulgate. You see, you can love a person, marry, have kids before and after and dump them indefinitely, leaving in your wake with a lot of single mothers and fathers —- with children the ultimate losers.
I feel that a child has a better chance to feel whole, loved and supported if they are in a 2-parent home.
Financially most importantly, their lives are more secure vs. a solo parent home, especially if both parents work.
Now remove that limitation – and everyone can freely procreate and remarry again. That leaves a lot of kids with only one parent growing up. An ideal situation for the parents, but NOT IDEAL for the many children produced.
4. Men here are promiscuous.
You completely remove that stigma because women can justifiably say they too can be promiscuous and find other men. Fact is, guys here stray and divorce gives them the easy way out to a marriage and their childcare (sans a bit of child support).
If I was rich and powerful and a man, I would LOVE LOVE LOVE the divorce law. It’s akin to getting pets in your eyes. Once you’re tired of the woman, just find another one and pay the last one a token of something.
So before you go completely pro, think about the consequences first. It’s not all girl power because it’s not just about us, the mothers, but all the children we leave behind. They are the most damaged and losers with the divorce law.
Yes I agree —- some marriages need to be disintegrated.
If you pick the wrong guy, yes I know guys can be crap. But the institution of marriage is there for GOOD REASON. When it works, it protects the children, and does not give men an easy way out whenever they want to.
I am a wife of an annuled man —- He married at 26, realized they made a mistake and annuled within the year. It took a lawyer, hundreds of thousands of professsional fees, a psychiatric assessment and good reason for the annulment to be granted.
For 10 years, he carried the stigma of being annuled. Nobody wanted him because he was broken or separated. Yes, there were ladies but it was not an easy out for him.
Even when we dated, my family gave him a hard time because he was annuled. Even the church gave us a hard time before we got married.
So yes, while I agree with your points, remember, the divorce law is very pro-man than woman. So please be careful what you wish for.
Because you just might get it, and then find out later, you end up to be bigger losers because it normalizes illict affairs, single parent children, and marriage without consequences because hey, we can always get divorced.