I was pregnant.
And then I wasn’t.
As per my last, the heartbeat stopped last week. It was a healthy 115 beats last May 18, and now, it hasn’t grown.
The embryo is 7 weeks old.
The baby should have been this week today:
We are sad of course.
Why is it that other women can easily churn out kids, when in fact, it’s so hard for us to get our second?
Well, at least we still have this:
The Lord has plans for us.
My OB says, only the strongest survive.
Unfortunately, only our daughter came out without a hitch. The last three died during the first trimester.
We do want a second. I am not getting any younger and running out of time.
But when things like these happen, the only thing we can do is pray, hope and wish for the best.
Have a good week everyone!
Hi Tina, perhaps you should visit a reproductive endocrinologist. My colleague had the same situation as you- first born child and then subsequent miscarriages. The OB said that since she was able to have one she should be able to have more but then she visited a specialist and found out she needed to get daily injections to keep her pregnancies viable and now they have two children. You could be Rhesus negative (Rh-) meaning that your body would reject all Rhesus positive babies after the first pregnancy or there could be other reasons that a general OB wouldn’t know to test for
Thanks for the tip. I should be more vigilant next time around and see her as soon as I get a heart beat the next time around. I will get another ultrasound tomorrow to see if the embryo is dead or alive. Lesson learnt for the next time.
I asked my colleague for details and suggested this link: https://callmebalot.com/all-about-apas/?fbclid=IwAR2NwcIARRaYFcd9qKx1EPaK-smDok2yk8tpKzySlgp2ILoXA7wbWcDiqvo
She also suggested asking OB about Reproductive Immune Disorders or APAS (Anti Phospholipis Antibody Syndrome), and also consider seeing an immunologist who can do the tests even if not pregnant.
Really sorry to be giving unsolicited (and perhaps unwanted advice) but I have known my colleague before, during, and after her struggles and want to share the information that could have spared her miscarriages if there is any chance at all that it might apply to you. My own cousin (also Fil-Chi) has APAS and finally had twins.
Thanks for your suggestion.
My OB will schedule my APAS test this week at your suggestion.
Sigh, I know a lot of Fil-Chis who have trouble getting pregnant. Paramihan kami ng miscarriages. No worries, the Lord has plans. He is always in control.