I’ve been duped again.
Why is it almost the same story?!
I meet this guy, with whom I have a fantastic connection. And after a thrilling emotional roller coaster ride of two weeks with constant flirting, great conversation and more, suddenly…
It just stops.
Just like that.
It first starts out real hot, and then, suddenly, it’s as cold as your fridge.
And you’re left scratching your head wondering, “What the heck happened?“
You thought you were charming enough. He did laugh at your jokes. He loved your company. But for some reason, he sort of faded into the background.
Reading the women’s so-called Bible, you can’t help but accept the hard truth that…
He’s just not that into you anymore.
Maybe he was wildly interested at first, and did all he can to pursue you. But now… well, we all know why he’s no longer as excited in calling you up.
And geez, what drives you nuts is that you have no idea why.
Was it because you were not that pretty? Or not that charming? Maybe you’ve misread his signals? Maybe it was just too quick?
Nevertheless, the result is still the same, he’s gone.
I call this “The Case of the Hot-and-Cold Man.”
Hot in the first two weeks, cold afterwards…
Sounds familiar? Heard it happens a lot.
Happens quite often to me as well.
Guys kind of pursue you. But as soon as they know they “got” you (e.g., in other words, you’re interested)… POOF! They’re gone. Disappeared. Faster than Houdini!
And it’s so easy to bang our head to the wall and wail, “IS IT MEEEEEEEEE?!!! WHY?!!!”
I’m tempted to do that right this very minute, actually.
But you know what? I’d rather not.
First, banging your head to the wall ACTUALLY hurts. And secondly, if the guy isn’t that interested, then maybe it’s not meant to be. No need to hurt your heart even more.
Fate, they call it. If the guy cannot sustain his interest of you for more than two weeks, how can you rely on him for the rest of your life?
That’s interest for you… either you have it or you don’t.
And if you don’t, just move on. Don’t waste your time pretending it’s there. It’s not.
Not your fault if he’s not though. You’re just not… compatible. Just not meant to be.
My only mistake was that I was too trusting. When I felt that I had an instant connection with this man, I immediately opened myself up. He knew things that even most acquaintances didn’t know. I’ve allowed him certain liberties. And all these within two weeks.
Next time, I should be more cautious. I’ll call it my two-week mark test.
I won’t be as open to you within the two weeks I meet you. But if you can sustain your interest after two weeks, that’s the time I’ll open up to you more.
But it’s not entirely his fault though. He was pretty clear where he stood.
I merely deluded myself into thinking that there was something more, even if there wasn’t… I guess, I misinterpreted his actions. As they say, actions speak louder than words. But I should have listened to his words more.
Guess, now’s the time to distance myself and stop dreaming.
My friends say to forget it.
And you know what? I will.
My friends say that I should find myself a new man. I have the weekend to find myself one.
Geez, at the rate I’m going, it’s like I’m finding a new man every 2 weeks! That’s about the time I do my laundry!
I don’t like this instability. I wish I can find a decent guy now with whom I can share my life with… but I know I should wait and be patient.
If it comes, it comes. And for the moment…