I didn’t believe my college friend when he warned me that the second kid was the hardest to make.
When he told me that, I was newly married and not even pregnant. How could sexy time even be a problem?
“But it only takes 5 to 10 minutes?” I exclaimed in my naïveté. “What makes it so hard?”
Now that I have my first kid, I now understand how hard it is to have the second.
“Ask Pea when we should schedule our sexy time,” joked my husband.
“But why should I even ask a 1-year old about our sex life?” I asked. “What does she have to do with that?”
Apparently a lot when you exclusively breastfeeding your daughter and she co-sleeps with us.
There seems to be a conspiracy to ensure that she remains the firstborn and the only child.
When she is awake, she is a big flurry of activity. She will ask you to read her multiple books, or play with her. Her attention is quite short so there’s a lot of mess to be expected when she’s around.
So after playing with a new toy, we’d have to clean up after her. And she will only doze off when she’s completely exhausted, and by that time, you’re completely tired as well.
And even when you do have some energy left for some sexy time, daughter WILL wake up when it’s time to do the deed.
For some insane reason, if you are tired, she will sleep through the night without fail. But if you are not tired, she will wake up when you attempt to touch each other.
How many times have we tried for sexy time and then find her wiggling and crying for some milk? I’ve already lost count.
So when a friend asks us why we only have one child, blame the kid. Not us.
We have tried for a second one, with try being the important word here. But we do need time to make a baby, and once you have your first, time is such a limited resource.
It makes me wonder how the older generation managed to birth 6-10 kids at a time. For me, having a second kid is already a challenge.
How about you? How did you manage to have a second child? And was it easy to take care of two kids when both are toddlers? What are your thoughts?