Last weekend, Boyfriend, with all the solemness he could muster, gave me a purity ring.
As you all know, Boyfriend and I have been attending Christian pre-engagement, pre-marital counseling. As part of our curriculum, we were asked to preserve our bodies till the day of our honeymoons if in case we do get married.
Given that we agreed (and how can we not?), we were asked to sign a purity agreement that read like this:
1 Thessalonians 4:3-8 — For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality; that each one of you know how to control his own body in holiness and honor, not in the passion of lust like the Gentiles who do not know God; that no one transgress and wrong his brother in this matter, because the Lord is an avenger in all these things, as we told you beforehand and solemnly warned you. For God has not called us for impurity, but in holiness. Therefore whoever disregards this, disregards not man but God, who gives his Holy Spirit to you.
1 Corinthians 6:18-20 — Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.
In obedience to God’s command, I promise to protect your sexual purity from this day until our honeymoon.
Because I respect and honor you, I commit to building up the inner person of your heart rather than violating you.
I pledge to show my love for you in ways that allow both of us to maintain a clear conscience before God and each other.
This is my promise of purity.
Signed: ______________________________ Signed: ______________________________
Date: ________________________________ Date: ________________________________
Witnessed/affirmed by: ____________________________________________________________
Both our mothers signed the paper, and we framed it. Boyfriend keeps it with him to remind him not to partake of porn or dare to constantly think of lustful thoughts.
Boyfriend’s mother who is in jewelry made me a purity ring that I now wear.
Yes, everyone keeps on asking me whether I got engaged over the weekend. Even my own mother was afraid that I’ve already made a permanent commitment.
We merely laughed it off saying that though it’s a real diamond, the ring merely symbolizes our purity covenant, and maybe a promise of things to come.
“The ring is too small the be an engagement ring!” I teased Boyfriend.
He smiles saying that he’ll try to make it bigger the next time around.
A week after wearing the purity ring, I’ve noticed several things.
For one, I’ve noticed that my boyfriend who usually holds my hand while watching TV or a movie, love love playing with it. Even without knowing it, he’ll twirl it a little bit and if sidelined, will turn it up the right way.
It’s kinda sweet, in a way. 🙂
Two, I’ve noticed that I get less attention from cute guys nowadays!
Even without giving the ring any attention, I noticed that whereas cute guys would chat me up at the gym, they keep a bit of a distance now. Oh my, this ring has turned into a man repellent!
Guess there’s still such a thing as a gentleman’s agreement.
And lastly, it kinda puts a new depth into my relationship with Boyfriend.
Specifically, it’s not about the physical now.
I still hold the thought that a relationship can last for a loooong time if there are sex involved. When you have nothing better else to do or talk about, have sex. When you disagree and fight, then have sex.
Sex has been a quick solution to all negative relationship issues. It’s a big band-aid that allows both men and women stay in a relationship longer than they need to.
With anything physical out of the picture, Boyfriend and I have to force ourselves to keep everything PG-13. Instead of pecking out, we’ll just chastely peck each other on the cheek. In the dinner table, we have to come up with more interesting conversation pieces that removes any sexual innuendo out of the picture as to not risk tempting the both of us.
It also makes us a lot hotter for each other. 😉
Hahaha, boy, can we not wait for our wedding day, IF EVER.
When all things fail, at least, we have our wedding night to look forward to.
And yes, we both believe it’s worth the wait.