In a relationship with…

I’ve just updated my Facebook Profile to say “In a relationship with Trader” last week. Inevitably, congratulations poured in from those who knew us back in college, to good friends in Hong Kong who were happy to see that the cat was finally out of the bag. This is the first time that I’ve already […]

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To give or not to give?

Despite talking and overanalyzing relationships, I’m still a newbie when it comes to these things. For example, when it comes to gift-giving, where do we draw the line? It all started when Trader tells me that he accidentally punched a hole (!) on his leather shoes with his umbrella. Don’t ask me how but the […]

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When you have that gnawing feeling…

It’s a gnawing feeling. It burns deep inside. You look at his/her eyes, and wonder to yourself, “Is he/she really the One for me? How come I am not sure?” You ask your friend on how he’s so happy with his current significant other. You’ve never seen him so ecstatic before and you know it’s […]

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Shame to be strong?

My friend tells me that I have a strong personality. From his voice, it seemed to me that having a stronger character is like a disease. I asked him if my condition was hopeless. “It’s not my fault la,” I moaned. “And besides, I can be extremely sweet and docile.” And I proceeded to bow […]

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Dating: A process and not a marriage end-all/be-all

Did you know that I was completely single for three years before starting to date this man? Hence, contrary to my colorful dating exploits, am still such a baby when it comes to relationships and it shows. However, I’m gradually learning and hoping I can keep my foot steady. What I’ve noticed is that men […]

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What I Need in a Man

I WANT MORE Attention: I need to know you are present, hopefully in body, but especially in spirit. That means getting rid of the evil blackberry once in a while… Courage and tenacity to last: Nothing about the future is certain except that it will be tough. I need to know I am with someone […]

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Being Carrie Bradshaw

 My friend thinks I’m like Carrie Bradshaw. “I’ve missed you so much,” he exclaimed when I had dinner with him last night. “You just say absolutely anything that comes to your mind and you’re so refreshingly open about it.” My boyfriend is more secretive than I am. You can talk to him for hours and […]

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Cursed?

Beauty and sex appeal can be a curse. Back in the Philippines, there was a popular rap song when I was younger. The chorus rang, “Humanap ka ng panget at ibigin mo ng tunay (Find somebody ugly to love and love him/her truly).” The song’s message was, if you ever want happiness, you have to […]

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Staying Sane in an LDR

Wow, haven’t I been posting multiple entries about my relationship instead of my usual feel-good, you-go-girl type of posts weeks ago. How fast things have changed, and how this bothers me. “You really like him a lot,” my girlfriend accused. “I’ve never seen you go gaga over a guy since I met you.” This was […]

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Trepidation

I don’t feel like posting these days. My heart is heavy and my mouth slightly downturned these days. Trepidation. A word that brings dread to one’s heart. It’s like walking out from your building, looking at the dark hazy clouds from a distance and you feel that it’s going to rain. Rain real hard. Intuition. […]

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Dear Hon (Part II),

I love you. I do. My love is the type most people dream about. It’s a love that gives me courage to persist even when situations are bleak, when times are tough and when things are uncertain. Mine is the love that lasts for a lifetime. There are days when I’m in love with you but loving you is a constant. It’s always there. Don’t ask me when I started loving you. I do now and choose you to be its receipient.

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Settle? Hell no!

“I’d settle for anyone,” my girlfriend the Actress wistfully moaned. “You’re very lucky Bonita but at least you have choices. It’s just that you don’t want your choices but at least you have SOME.” “Yes, but then again, if you think about it,” I argued. “They’re not choices if they’re not what you want. And […]

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