Opposites attract? NOT!

Compatibility is very important in any relationship. I’ve learned that now, even if I’ve learned it the hard way. I tried to make a relationship work with a guy who was culturally (traditional Japanese), mentally (no university degree) and emotionally (a bit repressed and careful with his feelings) different from me. And you know what happened there…

We were just too different, I suppose.

I liked making and meeting new friends, he was just happy not meeting anyone new (for him, it was a waste of time). I was very sociable who loved to party, while he was content in watching TV or playing video games. I was interested in intellectual conversations that were filled with politics, economics, and philosophy. He just wanted to talk about day-to-day activities and sports.

Our opposite personalities may have initially captured our mutual attraction. But unfortunately, for a genuine relationship to be successful, there must be enough similarities and shared interest for the relationship to develop.

And that’s why, I won’t date a local Chinese.

Nor will I date an American (my previous experiences with both Mikes has shown me that Americans and I cannot really match well together).

So who will I consider dating?

Here’s the best way to describe me…

I am too saintly for the sinners… and too sinful for the saintly.

I am too Eastern for the Western… and too Western for the Eastern.

I am too conservative for the liberals… and too liberal for the conservatives.

Is there anyone like me? Simply said, if you can find anyone who is your equal, who is similar to you, date him! If you can find someone who is…

Not too saintly nor too sinful…

Not too Eastern… nor Western…

Not too conservative… nor too liberal…

If you meet anyone like that, introduce him to me!!! I’d like to date him!


About Tina

I'm a forgetful person. But I think a lot. Every day, a lot of thoughts enter my head. That's why this blog came to be: first, to keep my memories alive through the years, and two, to actually see how I and my thoughts have changed. Please note that I seldom draft or edit my posts. Sometimes, if I'm not careful, I offend some of you, my readers. And while I apologize for making you feel uncomfortable, I am not sorry for being honest or for making well-intentioned mistakes. I will however be the first to admit if I change my mind. Hence, do read and proceed with caution. My life is as colorful and as boring as you make it. I complain many days, but offer some encouragement in others. Life is fluid, it changes. So keep the positives and throw away the negatives, and I do hope that at the end of the day, you will enjoy reading the blog and leaving comments here and there if my posts touches you. Happy reading!
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2 Responses to Opposites attract? NOT!

  1. eyb says:


  2. raven says:

    Doesn’t matter what race he’s coming from… Filipino, Japanese, American… as long as he’s a balance (not too extreme), it’s cool with me.

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