What is the difference between a “date” and “hanging out?”
Up till now, I have no idea what the difference is. And when I ask my friends, they all give me different answers…
One friend said, “If there are romantic intentions, it’s a date.”
Great, so what if one is romantically interested, while the other just thinks of the first person as a friend… is that a date? Or, what if you’re kinda attracted to a person, but you’re not that interested yet… are those dates?
Another friend suggested, “If it’s just the two of you (of the opposite gender), it’s a date.”
Great, so my friend Michael is cheating on his girlfriend because we have a habit of eating dinner together one-on-one regularly. But then again, we both know we’ll never be. We are just looking for two different things and are too different for a relationship. We know we’re just that… friends. And how about having frequent brunches with Jose? So, were those dates?
Another friend said, “If he pays for everything, it’s a date.”
Geez. Another friend Mark insists on paying for everything just because he was taught that women should not be allowed to pay. If a guy goes out with a girl, the guy pays (being quite traditional here). So, were those dates?
Another friend said, “If a guy treats you special, it’s a date.”
Oh, but the thing is, most of my guy friends treat me in a very special manner… but both parties know the status of a relationship.
Oooh, and one more, “If there’s a kiss in the end, it’s a date.”
But how about more “conservative” women like me who do not kiss men on the first date? Or the second. Usually, a hug is the norm… but it doesn’t mean I’m not interested, get it?
Point is, I have no idea!!! Can ANYONE tell me the difference between hanging out and a date?! And please, do explain why. I’m at a loss here.
It’s so funny. I’ve never been out in a date “date,” really…
Even with my ex, we never officially went out on dates. We hung out sooo much that we never really had to start “dating.” And when we finally got together, it was a sudden transition from friends, to boyfriend and girlfriend.
I even asked him one day, “Have we ever been out on a date?”
To which he scratches his head and replied, “Well…. Hmmm… We did go to the night market once. Remember the time when we ate snake?”
To which I asked in surprise, “WAS THAT A DATE?!!!” *raises eyebrows*
My ex kinda thinks so… but we both agreed it wasn’t a date in the truest sense of the word. It was more like two good friends hanging out, which was exactly what happened.
So technically, I’ve never had a date yet.
Okay, so I’m not the date master. In fact, I would really appreciate it if someone can just take me out on a real date!!! Hmmm… maybe I can ask one of my friends to do so. The single ones of course!
I’m no relationship-breaker.
Some readers (thank you for visiting this site!!!) have commented that my blog sounds more like Sex and the City. To which, I ask with a sly grin, “Haha, if this was like Sex and the City… where’s the sex?!”
My friend Mark has always teased me that now that I’m the de-facto president of the organization I’m in, my love/sex life is going to suck!
Guys are usually intimidated with women of power… 🙁
First, they assume that I’m already taken (if they wanted to know, they could’ve just asked!). And secondly, they’re just too shy cause am too loud! Sigh. Maybe he’s right then. NOT!
But I feel flattered and equally humbled with the comparison. To some people who come and visit my blog, and share in with what’s been happening in my life… I am very thankful. Am just a stranger, but for some reason, your thoughtful comments have allowed me to form some sort of connection with you. So thank you!
Anyway, gotta work now… so write again tomorrow! And please, do enlighten me on the difference between dating and hanging out. I’d really want to know…