1. The monthly prenatal check-ups and long waits outside the clinic
You have to go and see your OB every month.
My OB’s clinic is from 1pm to 4pm. We arrived at 12:30pm and was #10!
This is going to be a looooong wait.
3. You feel uncomfortable the entire day.
I don’t have any morning sickness or food cravings but I feel like puking at random times of the day.
I feel a shortness of breath everyday. Are these symptoms common for pregnant women?
3. The tiredness that comes in the afternoon.
While the baby is still forming, it inevitably saps your energy. Hence, you can’t help but feel it sucking your energy.
There will be days when you will feel tired. And you want to take a nap but you can’t because everyone is working.
My sister-in-law has a cot in the office to catch a few hours of zzzzz. I can’t and won’t do that. So I have to grit and bear it, drinking strong coffee in the morning to last through the day.
4. Food restrictions
I still continue to drink coffee since it’s OB approved, but I can’t really eat raw fish or sushi, which I love.
It’s frustrating to be in Taipei and not be able to eat all the fresh and delicious sushi.
5. Medicine Restrictions
I had an unfortunate bout of LBM this week but I couldn’t really drink Imodium since it’s unsafe for baby.
I’m sure there are a lot of medicines I can’t touch either. So the best way is to grit and ride the sickness through.
All for the good of the baby.
6. The harrowing diagnostic tests for defects, taken around the 11th to 13th week, and the following trimester.
Every parent wants a normal baby and it’s very scary when you find out pre-birth that your baby is abnormal.
I pray and hope that will never happen. No parent ever deserves to know that there’s something wrong with their baby while still in the womb.
My OB suggested I take the diagnostic exam today to find out whether my child has Down syndrome. Apparently, the risk increases after you reach 35 years old. This is scary for me, as I pray and home that our baby is normal.
7. The Risk of Miscarriage
Especially at my age, miscarriages can be quite common. My friends have at least 1-2 miscarriages behind their belt and it can be depressing for any mom to find out they’ve lost their baby.
I actually had a miscarriage before my daughter. It was just a month and I just started bleeding heavily after getting a positive pregnancy test.
I was surprisingly depressed afterwards.
The only comfort I had was that the baby was weak, and it wasn’t meant to be. We would’ve lost it anyway.
The baby I had now which followed was way stronger. She gave me no troubles at all from pregnancy till birth till after birth, so God really works out for the best.
8. The Prospect of Losing Work Time
Prenatal checkups is usually once a month, and usually takes half a day.
After I had my baby, I took a month off work to rest and have my gue lai. I gave birth in December which was the busiest season of the year, and I had to be content in staying at home and trusting that my team will carry us through.
They did —- thankfully.
After the birth, I couldn’t really travel overseas for business frequently. I was EBF so couldn’t really afford to be away from my baby for a long time.
As I’ve said, I have to work. A lot of people are depending on me. So yes, a baby does put a damper to work. Sorry.
Overall, I am just griping…
I’m still at the camp that babies are life’s greatest blessings and all of my complaints are petty in the face of an innocent little Me that’s coming weeks later.
Don’t get me wrong, I am very thankful. And I am praying for a safe and painless delivery and a normal baby.
It’s just uncomfortable to be a bit pregnant. My husband feels no pity, and I’d like to hit him just to show him it hurts, but I know that this phase is God’s gift, and an experience I will not really have to go through all the time.
So might as well be thankful for what I have.