DragonStalker rightfully asked whether it’s good that Trader and I had been fighting all the time. Actually, I wouldn’t call these as fights but rather as arguments which I blow out in proportion when reporting them on my blog. 🙂
That said, I’ve thought about my previous relationships and wondered if I fought with my ex-boyfriends as much as I do with Trader.
And the answer is, technically speaking, my ex-boyfriends and I never really fought.
Maybe I was too complacent or they were too conflict averse but we never really fought. Every issue was just placed under the covers and after one insignificant fight, we breakup.
With Trader, I think I continually test the limits of our relationship. Admittedly, I’m afraid of being disappointed later on that I try my best to see if he’ll snap after one argument. Yes ladies and gentlemen, I am hot-tempered and not well behaved. However, I feel it’s better to show this side earlier than later.
Why do I do it?
Well first, because I can and because I’m crazy.
But most importantly, I’d really like to see whether Trader can handle my craziness and still want to be with me. We both admit that I have a temper which am trying to gradually curb but at the end of the day, it’s about accepting me for who I am, I guess.
As they say, it’s important that we get these issues out right now before we get married instead of keeping quiet about it and exploding later out. At least, we get to deal with these expectations (e.g., me being high maintenance, him wanting me to be more traditional) right now and get them over with.
From these bursts, we discover more about each other.
Me being hot-tempered and the need to keep my temper in check later on. Okay la, my fault!
And him being very patient and a lovely person to deal issues with.
So yes, it can be dismaying to know that we do argue. But it is comforting that we’re still together and going even stronger despite the discussions. We are slowly but surely working through our issues and as we do it, discover just how much we value each other that we work hard at it.
The couple that lasts aren’t those without problems.
They are rather those who choose to deal with these issues head on with love and respect.
Hopefully, Trader and I can last but it’s ironic that the more we fight, the more I respect him. Because it shows he’s a man with rational opinions and an openness to discuss our issues.
Anyway, thanks a lot for your comments, and wishing you a great weekend everyone!