Do you know what women usually talk about when we have our “girl talks?” Sure, we talk about the latest gossip and career plans, but basically, we also like to talk about relationships-who we’re dating, who is interested in us and who are merely in the “just friends” category but he’s nice so I’ll keep him.

The question, “How do you make someone like you?” pops a lot during such conversations. Regardless on how successful the woman may be, there’s still an element of insecurity that wants the reassurance that we are loved.

Desired.

Wanted.

The answer in my limited experience has been quite surprising.

The answer is, you cannot make a guy love you.

No matter how hard you chase, how much you flirt, how forceful you try to seduce someone, if a guy’s not interested, there’s really nothing much you can do.

Either they like you, or they don’t.

It’s that simple.

If they like you, you will know.

How will you know?

Simple.

They will call you.

They will send you sweet SMSs.

They will ask you out.

They will not dare to have anybody touch you. They will make you theirs.

And if a guy doesn’t care as much? The answers are right there on the wall.

They will cancel on dates.

You have to pursue them and do all the work.

They will be too lazy to call you.

If they see you, great. Otherwise if they have to make some sort of effort, well then maybe next time when it’s more convenient for them.

If men feel it, they cannot help but show it to you. They’d love nothing else but to make it happy and for you to feel how they feel. They’d also like it if you felt the same way.

And if they don’t feel much for you-you’ll know. No excuses. No, they’re not that busy. They’re not dead. They’re not trapped and can’t find the time to call you.

You just know.

And how do you make a guy like you?

You really can’t.

The best you can do is to just be yourself and to let leaves fall as they may.

You have to be true to yourself. Don’t pretend someone whom you are not because you may very well risk attracting someone who is interested in that pretended part of you and may be angry to discover that’s not really who you are. After the real you resurfaces which always happen, they discover they’ve fallen in love with a fake. And that type of relationship is simply sustainable. 

You have to realize that you deserve better. More love. Better treatment.

Don’t ever accept anything else just because you are lonely.

If you demand more, sure he may run away because he’s scared, but typically, you’ll get more. And if he doesn’t care enough to give you what you want anyway, then how do you think the relationship will play out in the long term?

Forgive me, I’ve been a sentimental fool lately. I look at my previous posts and noted that the tone has shifted from work-related posts to feelings of the heart. My friends think I’m more interesting when in love because I’m less bossier and more emotional.

I hope you don’t snooze with all my cheesiness.

Anyway, climbing today so gotta go. Hope all is well with everyone. How are you guys doing anyway? Leave a comment just to say hi if you can! J