There are basically three ways to look at things on finding “the One:”
1) There is really that one person fated for you. He/she is perfect for you in many ways, and the moment you meet him/her, there is just that instant connection, and in many ways, you are compatible with each other.
2) You choose someone, and both of you work your ass off to make the relationship work, learned to compromise and live happily ever after.
3) There is no “One” person for you. But there are a lot of people quite suited for you. In fact, you can be quite happy with a lot of people.
I’m still idealistic enough to believe there is that special for someone for me. Personally, I don’t think my boyfriend is the one — yet. But seeing how both of us are willing to make the relationship work, it does look promising.
But of course, time will tell.
How about you? Do you think “The One” exists?
It makes you wonder…
Two guys are in love with my close girl friend — one is her current boyfriend, while the other is her ex.
Which guy is the right guy for her?
The ex tells me that he is more compatible with her. He claims that there is no one who can understand her like he does, and vice-versa. After years of togetherness, they have reached a level of understanding that he knows how she feels just by looking at her.
“I betcha her current boyfriend does not understand her the same way as I do,” he says.
However, if you’d notice, no matter on how much you understand a person, if she’s in the arm of someone else, there’s really nothing you can do. At the end of the day, she is still with him, and not with you.
Maybe there may be a reconciliation… maybe not.
But the thing is, when you’re with someone, you give it your best shot. You settle all your little issues and compromise to make the relationship work.
Break ups are merely the worst case scenario — when issues can no longer be dealt, and the couple realizes this isn’t the person I’d like to spend the rest of your lifewith.
And once you break up, that’s it.
The relationship was your chance, and once you break up, there has to be a damn good reason for it. And breakups are breakups.
There’s a sense of finality in them.
I’m aware that some people still hook up even after the breakup. And maybe it’s possible.
But I believe that your chance lies when you’re in a relationship. That’s why you have to treasure your partner, every chance you get. Because once you break up, it’s a totally different story already.
Things change. Circumstances change. And people move on.
It will never be the same as before. 🙁