Really, do nice girls finish last?
An interesting answer by a guy named, “Greekattoryney:”
Define “nice.”
I don’t know any nice girls who finish last.
Most of the nice girls that I know have boyfriends.
Why?
Because men like nice women.
If “nice” equals “overweight but with a good personality” then the answer is obvious.
If “nice” equals “boring, shy, quiet, and sexless” then the answer is obvious.
If “nice” equals “dates bad boys in a pathetic attempt to change them” then the answer is obvious.
So, what exactly is your question? I don’t know any attractive, intelligent, fun, nice women that are finishing last.
Hmmm… great point, Greekattorney!
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More often than not, we women comfort ourselves into thinking that looks and attractiveness will only get you as far as the first and second date… and that it’s the substance and inner beauty that will make a guy stay.
But no matter how shallow it may sound, we mustn’t forget that it’s the looks and attractiveness that will first attract a guy.
Hence, we cannot just say, “I’m a nice person, so I don’t care how I look! It’s take it or leave it!” and complain that nobody’s asking us out.
We also can’t be boring on a date, expecting the guy to take the trouble to bring us out of our shell… and wait by the phone for them to ask us out the second time around.
I do seriously believe it’s our obligation to keep ourselves neat and presentable at all times.
And girl, please do have a life!
No guy wants boring women, even if their parents want him to date them!
Put yourself in their shoes!
Would you want to go out with a “nice” yet boring and unattractive man?
Yes, I thought so too.
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My dad has started to matchmake my brother and I!
It’s funny cause my father has always made mention that I’m supposed to have my first boyfriend when I’m 28.
Mind you, that’s for my first boyfriend.
*shudder*
No wonder my 34-year old sister isn’t married yet! We’re all worried she’s about to miss the last train!
All my dad’s fault.
Anyhow, I think because of this, my father’s a bit concerned about my lovelife.
I don’t seriously think he wants me to end up childless, husbandless and alone.
That’s why, he’s been keeping his eye out for “eligible” bachelors. 😉
Here’s a secret though, I don’t think my father has very good taste of men or women…
They’re nice, of course.
They come from good, well-to-do families.
But they’re as boring as hell.
Watch out for more matchmaking stories in future posts.
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Dreamt about King Kong the other day… he was sorta chasing after me.
Funny how dreams can feel so real.
But no matter how shallow it may sound, we mustn’t forget that it’s the looks and attractiveness that will first attract a guy.
you’re right about that. looks do matter.
Hence, we cannot just say, “I’m a nice person, so I don’t care how I look! It’s take it or leave it!” and complain that nobody’s asking us out.
the problem is, what if the “inside” doesn’t even look good? *horror* ^_^
And girl, please do have a life!
mmm… I think most women do have a life. it’s just that maybe they just don’t know how to make it more exciting or make it less routine.
it’s sure good to know that one of us is living it up for us. keep posting! =)
Hi Raine, thanks for your comments! It’s comments like yours that make me want to keep posting. 🙂
Well, if the inside doesn’t look good, why the heck are u still with that guy/girl?! Once a bitch, always a bitch.
As for being exciting, hmmm… I guess, it’s just about going beyond our boundaries. It’s not really what you do, but how you look at things that make life more exciting! C’est La Vie!
Another worthy read.
Nice is a very broad word. Nice can mean unexciting, boring-to-the-bone girl; or, unfazed drama queen who just wants to have fun; or…or…whatever.
The point is, if men just exerted a little more effort in getting to know us, they’d find that all girls are nice.
In more ways than one.
Oh well. I’m going back to being unfazed… =)
Beachfreak, so true! Most girls are nice, once you break through their defenses. 🙂