Note: My ex and I did the long-distance thing for seven months before calling it quits on our first-year anniversary. Am sure that distance was a factor, but the main reason was actually something I’ve already written in my previous entry, “Breakup Season.” I still do believe in LDRs, and though it’s difficult, I feel it’s doable. If I do meet the right guy, I would be willing to try a LDR again. 🙂
Personally though, here are some things I’d like to share to help those in LDRs survive a LDR. I’ve posted this earlier in PinoyExchange and I think it’s still applicable now. Enjoy and keep it strong:
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The best way to keep her is to make sure that she loves you as much as you love her. The most important thing for a long-distance relationship to work out is to ensure that both parties are committed in making the relationship work. That means, lots of hard work and some money. Both parties have to do their best to make it successful:
First, you’d have to trust each other.
Because you’re in two different countries, it’s useless to worry about the other every time. And I assure you, given the distance, am sure there will be doubts. So it’s important that doubt isn’t given a chance in the relationship.
Be extra-sweet with each other, and constantly reassure each other that your feelings are still going strong despite the distance.
Invest in some high-tech gizmos. Use the internet, webcam, MSN, whatever… but keep in contact with each other. Even if you’re not together, you don’t have to grow apart. Find where you can buy cheaper international phone cards and take turns to call each other to save on costs.
Keep the romanticism by writing snail mails one time or the other.
Send “care” packages just because.
And never forget each other’s birthday’s and anniversaries.
Set a date when you can see each other again. I’m in a long-distance relationship too (well, not anymore!), and I know how frustrating it can be when you don’t know when you’ll see each other again.
At least, set a general time when you’ll visit the Philippines again or when she can go and visit you. But make sure you keep the date.
Lots of prayers and hard work… but if you love each other, I believe that long-distance relationships can happen.
Hope this helps! Good luck!
had a LDR for 2 years b4 we call it quits.. same as you, i also believe that it’s doable with the right partner. i thought before she was the one but sadly there’s no such thing as perfect partner. 🙁
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all your tips, i did that before. Heck, i even send her gifts a month before the occasion coz it’s very expensive if i’ll have it DHL or fedex so i hust use the local couriers..
hey hey
im a gal who is having a long distance relationship now
we alr tgt for 3 months and i am so sure that she is the rite one =D
the real tough period will come 5 months later.when we are not able to meet each other for one solid year =( before we can reli stay tgt…
i hope we are strong enough to go through it tgt
anw..i enjoyed reading ur blog =D
I also have a long distance relationship. My girlfriend lives in Chile and I see her only 4 months out of the year. I also have a blog… muchotiempo.wordpress.com
Yukim, fight and stay tight, though see if you can handle it. Good luck to your relationship!
Wow Abronish, 4 months out of a year! Well, absence makes the heart grow fonder. In your case, good luck to you as well!