Here’s what Evan Marc Katz has to say about this topic:
So how will you know that he’s interested in you?
He’ll call you as soon as possible to make plans to see you again. That’s it.
Any other excuse – as pointed out ad nauseum in He’s Just Not That Into You – is meaningless.
You’re not wrong, for wanting to find some clarity in your relationship. It’s normal that, over the course of a month, your feelings would start to deepen and develop. But one month is still a short period of time and unless you’re quite positive that he’s on the same love track as you are, I would lean back and play it cool.
Instead of forcing him to have a potentially uncomfortable conversation before he’s figured out his feelings, why don’t you just wait to see him reveal his feelings? Believe me, if he’s calling you every day and wants to see you four nights a week, you can be pretty sure that he’s serious about you. On the other hand, if you see him once a week and he only communicates with you by text message, I wouldn’t get too excited about him.
And when you reach the point where you simply can’t live without the knowledge that you’re in a committed relationship – most likely, in a month or two – that’s when it’s time to have a real conversation with him.
Ultimately, you shouldn’t have to have ask him how he’s feeling. You should know how he’s feeling based on the effort he’s making for you. And if he’s not making an effort, you don’t have to look very far for your answer.
Well said, indeed.
I saw SimpleGuy today. He was surprised to see me. “Waaa, long time no see!”
Uhuh. You had my number. You could’ve called so we wouldn’t be no see this long a period.
Anyway, too late to cry over spilled milk. If a guy does not make plans to see you, well then, that’s your answer right? He’s just not that interested, and experience taught me to only go for the guy who are equally interested as you are in him.
This weekend sounds promising. Hope I do find someone who IS interested! 🙂