I’ve read quite a few I-Need-Help-in-my-Relationship books before, but this one takes the cake.

There’s only one chapter that I did not agree in, which was when Sherry instructs women to act like useless females and pretend as if we need a man to be our Superhero. Otherwise, I find her advice to be quite insightful, to the point and overall, useful.

Basically, her message is this: A woman must have dignity and self-respect in order to garner the respect of the men she wants. At no time should she give a guy total power over her life or her decisions. Because once you do, you loose that zest that made him love you in the first place.

Women have a tendency to bend over backward once we fall in love. I find myself changing as well. Blame it on years of training on how to be a nice girlfriend/wife/partner. We were told that in order to make a guy fall in love with us, we’d have to make him happy and serve him to the best of our capability. We have to depend on him to complete us.

However, relationships should be made of two equals. Inasmuch as he’s made that decision to chase after you, it is also us women who made the decision to be with him. Sure, we treat our men like kings, but then again, we have to stop and think whether or not they deserve to be treated as such.

If they’re not pulling an effort in trying to make us happy, then why should be choose them out of all the other fishes in the sea? Sometimes, it’s better to just let them go and find someone else who values us as much as deserve to be valued.

It’s a great reminder on how to stay grounded and emotionally “sane” while in a relationship, and how to find the love we truly deserve, be it with this guy we’re currently dating or with someone else.

P.S. Though I recommend “Why Men Love Bitches,” I do NOT recommend that you waste your money on “Why Men Marry Bitches.” The same message but on a more tiring format. Buy Alan Greenspan’s The Age of Turbulence instead.

Have a great week everyone!